The Ultimate New Year's Resolution: Embrace Your Natural Self
Posted on December 22 2016
This is a follow up to our earlier article on 4 Secrets To Embracing Your Curves.
Almost every visual today, whether it is for a deodorant or a motorbike, features a woman that has a figure to die for, the perfect hair and makeup, and clothes that accentuate her features. We have all been guilty about wishing for similar vital statistics and sexy outfits. But take a moment to think – is this really what being ‘beautiful’ means?
The fact is that we are so taken by these unattainable and unreal perceptions of beauty that as women we often forget that real beauty lies within. What’s worse is that most of these stunningly gorgeous images that you see of women doing the rounds on social media are actually photo-shopped.
The truth is that nothing beats a confident attitude and a woman who has high self-esteem. So in 2017, let’s resolve to stay away from these social media-driven ideas of beauty and instead focus on embracing ourselves for who we are and being beautiful in the true sense of the word.
Beauty in the Eyes of Celebs
At The Kewl Shop, we love all things celebrity and socialite inspired. Admittedly, most of us are influenced by what they say. To start the resolution list for this coming year, here are some seriously inspiring quotes that help you build your self-esteem and re-establish your belief in beauty being more than skin-deep - literally.
If there is one celeb who has got the idea right, it is Ellen DeGeneres. It is easy to be inspired by Ellen, she is always full of energy and style. When asked to describe beauty she explains, “Beauty is about being comfortable in your own skin. It's about knowing and accepting who you are.” Are you accepting every freckle and scar? Do you love your body and take care of it?
The ultimate sex siren herself, Marilyn Monroe, shines light into our hearts explaining, “To all the girls that think you’re fat because you’re not a size zero, you’re the beautiful one, it’s society who’s ugly.” Isn’t it fascinating how her exact words ring so true even after so many years?
“I keep telling myself that I’m a human being, an imperfect human being who’s not made to look like a doll, and that who I am as a person is more important than whether at that moment I have a nice figure.” These are the words of Emma Watson, a celebrity who has impressed us all with not only her acting skills, but also her other work at such a young age. In fact, she is the UN Women Global Goodwill Ambassador - talk about inspiring youth icons.
As her fashion-conscious character of Rachel in the TV series ‘Friends,’ Jennifer Aniston, became the role model of many a woman. In fact, her hairstyle from that time was one of the most copied styles in the world. But again, Rachel Greene was a fictional character on TV. Real life beauty is not just embodied by a woman who looks perfect at any point in time throughout the day. Even Aniston acknowledges it. Here’s what she thinks, “You’re damned if you’re too thin and you’re damned if you’re too heavy… It’s impossible to satisfy everyone and I suggest we stop trying.’ Now that attitude is worth aspiring to.
How can we be talking about celebs and standards of beauty today, and not mention Kim Kardashian? Well, you may love her or hate her, but the one thing women need to learn from her is her complete acceptance of her body. Kim shares, “Embrace your curves and who you are. I feel proud if young girls look up to me and say, ‘I’m curvy, and I’m proud of it now’”.
Here is what one of the world’s greatest tennis players has to say about loving yourself, “I want women to know that it’s okay. That you can be whatever size you are and you can be beautiful inside and out. We’re always told what’s beautiful and what’s not, and that’s not right.”
Being in the constant spotlight is never easy. We learn and get inspired from these beautiful celebrities of various sizes, backgrounds, accomplishments, and body types that loving who you are and being comfortable in your own skin is the only true and real beauty.
How to Embrace Your Own Beauty
According to many Hollywood actresses, models, and sportswomen beauty lies in much more than your body type and the makeup you wear. While we are not suggesting that you live in your pajamas from now on, do not fall into the trap of believing that beauty is about your dress size, hairstyle, or your facial shape.
Instead of making your New Year’s resolution list about looking good to stay within society-dictated beauty standards, strive to be confident and accept the way you are. If you do decide that losing weight is your goal for 2017, do so to be more healthy and change your lifestyle. If you are determined to get more work done, do so because you want to learn to be more self disciplined.
Tackling your New Year Resolution should be more about changing your lifestyle for the better, rather than working to meet a societal goal or demand.
Confused? Get started with these steps.
Try new things
In 2017, aim to experiment and try all those things that you were either scared of doing or did not do because of “what others might think.” Whether it is bungee jumping or simply dining out all by yourself, go ahead and just do it.
The thrill and sense of achievement that comes from doing something of trying new things will do wonders for your confidence. Vincent Van Gogh shares, “If you hear a voice within you say, ‘you cannot paint’, then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced.”
Visualize the right things
As women, we are constantly imagining and visualizing, right? So why not use this power to feel good about yourself? Create a vision of yourself as a confident, self-reliant person who has nothing to fear. Put on some relaxing music, close your eyes, and try to see things through the vision of such a person. You are what you think. Resolve to do this for 10 minutes every day, and you will notice the change very soon.
Be your own hero
Let’s get to the point - none of us are princesses here, so why wait for Prince Charming to come fix the bulb or carry the groceries? Being beautiful is not about playing the damsel in distress (no matter what media or even fairy tales made us believe). So take charge and get stuff done without having to rely on anyone. After all, there is absolutely no reason why you cannot do it. This is the biggest confidence booster of all, so make a note on your resolution list to start practicing this.
Breathe and relax
As women we get so caught up in the frenzy to be perfect at everything that they often end up make a mess of things. This only reinforces our feeling of helplessness and brings down your self-esteem. Instead, take time to relax and think about how good you have been at things, and your accomplishments in 2016.
The ability to relax is important for all of us, so do not let yourself get stressed out over how you think you are failing. You are human, after all. Learn to focus on the positives instead and take any setbacks in your stride.
Steer clear of comparisons
Comparing yourself to others is always a bad idea. Instead be inspired by them to achieve your goals. That friend on social media may seem like she is the epitome of perfection, but then do you ever really know the truth? Do not judge your life by what others’ look like on social media, at the office, or elsewhere.
Believe in yourself and set your sights on the goals you have set for yourself. As Ralph Waldo Emerson puts it, “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
Have been thinking about posting your pictures from that memorable vacation on social media? Have you not done it yet because you feel like you do not look good enough or your friends look better than you? That is what you need to overcome (yes, put that on your list of New Year’s resolutions).
If you wish to attain an enviable figure, do it because you want to get healthy, not because you want to fit into the social media’s perception of beauty. Go ahead and start working on a new, true-to-life resolution list and we promise, you will love yourself more than you ever did before the year is over.
It is like author Steve Maraboli says, “Embracing your true self radiates a natural beauty that cannot be diluted or ignored. Confident, powerful, untamable, badass you!”
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