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Self Love - How To Improve Your Confidence & Self Esteem

Last updated on : April 13 2020

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The Trouble With Self-Love

Few of us are naturally confident and full of self-love - although as we look at the lives of others, we don't believe this.  

The reality is that we all struggle to build ourselves up for the day - especially when we need to look and feel our best. It takes work with many of us not managing at all, instead focussing on the negative aspects of daily life, work, money, health, and relationships.

Social media doesn't help either. As we peer into the lives of others, we can't help but feel we're missing out or that the grass is greener on their side.

Here at The Kewl Shop, we struggle too, and we see your troubles. No one has blessed us with abundant self-confidence, and our sense of worth reaches new lows often daily. So we've set off on our own "Love Yourself" crusade.  

Below is where we are so far. Click on each section heading to learn more.

Unplug From Social Media

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Relationships in the 21st century are very different from relationships just a decade ago. With the steady influence of social media, smartphones, tablets, and other technology, connections are being stirred, tested, and challenged.

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Shape Your Critical Thinking

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You've probably read or heard many discussions about critical thinking. Most situations in life call for the use of critical thinking skills. The person who develops and puts to use his or her critical thinking skills will rise like cream and achieve anything he or she wants.

Critical thinking is not just about accumulating knowledge but a way of approaching life's situations so that you can make accurate conclusions and sound decisions.

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Practice Self-Care

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Yes, self-care can be hard when you have other responsibilities. The relaxing day you'd planned for yourself gets disrupted by a crying baby or your mom calling to see if you can pick up her groceries.

However, taking care of yourself doesn't have to be an all-day endeavor. It can be a quick and fun thing if you do it right. 

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Try These Mood-Boosting Habits

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Each of us would be delighted to have the super ability to always be in a good mood. But reality dictates its own rules. Sometimes our attitude does not depend directly on us but instead the result of external events and factors.

Whatever the cause of our bad mood, it is necessary to be able to return ourselves to a balanced state, even if, for this, you need to improve your mood with practiced methods.

Work On Your Fitness Levels

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Improving your health and fitness levels is terrific for your confidence, and if done right gives you a body to show off too.

Our approach is to exercise often and effectively, eat healthily, and focus on developing our best physical assets. Then take shortcuts by hiding our flaws with properly fitted dresses, makeup, or other cheats. 

Yes, keeping healthy and fit is a personal choice, but one you can manage with some planning and determination. Looking and feeling sexy is entirely in your hands and will change your life. 

Eat For Healthy Happiness

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Eating healthy is about more than looking good in a bandage dress, it's about looking after your health and wellbeing too. A proper diet goes a long way to making you feel good, and to appreciate your body more.   

Share in our healthy eating knowledge because we aim to inspire you to feel right about your shape and improve the way you eat from today.

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Embrace Your Natural Self

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Almost every visual today, whether it's for a deodorant or a motorbike, features a woman that has a figure to die for, the perfect hair and makeup, and clothes that accentuate her features.

We've all been guilty wishing for similar vital statistics and sexy outfits. But take a moment to think – is this really what being 'beautiful' means?

Starting now, let's resolve to stay away from these social media-driven ideas of beauty and instead focus on embracing ourselves for who we are.  And being beautiful in the real sense of the word.

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Be Positive And Overcome Stress

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Is your boss always breathing down your neck at work? Are your grades or finances in a bad state? Is your relationship with friends or family on the decline? Do the problems of the day and the worries of the future keep you up all night?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you are probably experiencing stress.

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Care For Your Face And Skin

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Looking and feeling good covers some aspects. Ensuring your skin is healthy, glowing, and radiant, showcasing your smile leaves you feeling on top of the world. And being on the top of the world is where you want to be. 

Take a holistic approach to skincare. Proper cleansing and treatment, protection, healthy eating, exercise, and of course, makeup are the cornerstones of our strategy.

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Learn To Be Seductive

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Below are the six principles of seduction and sexiness. Learn them to transform yourself from ok to fantastic. 


  • Principle 1. Showing Skin Does Not Mean Sexy
  • Principle 2. Make Eye Contact 
  • Principle 3. Embrace Humor and Flirtation 
  • Principle 4. Use Your Mind 
  • Principle 5. Be Confident & Invest in Yourself 
  • Principle 6. Invest in Others 

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Be Cool

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"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment." Those words, courtesy of the poet Ralph Waldo Emerson, ring more real than ever today.

The media saturates us with ideas about who and what we should be, what we should wear, how we should act, and what it means to be cool. When you strive for what others want, though, you lose yourself.

Follow our principles for a new you, because being cool is about you.

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Rock Your Pain Jane Beauty

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People think being plain and looking pretty are two entirely different things. But are they different? Is it possible to be an everyday Jane yet be full of beauty? The answer is yes, it is possible.

If you often find yourself feeling like the odd one out dressed at a party, there are ways to work around it. And no, it does not involve piling on the makeup.

Something as simple as just picking the right dress can do the trick.

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Step Out In A Short Dress

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Wearing sexy short dresses is not for the faint-hearted. You need confidence in your legs, your complexion, and to know your style. It's about being flirty, simple, and to the point.

Short dresses don't leave much to the imagination (in most cases) and keep you fresh while ensuring you are visually hot and spicy.

Try this continually trending style for a boost of confidence and self-appreciation. Wear it for you.

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Cheat With Quick Fixes 

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Jennifer Love Hewitt once said, "The fun part of being a girl is that there are little beauty things you can do to make yourself feel special." 

Detox Your Wardrobe

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All in all, it would appear as though a person's love for fashion and their concern for the environment cannot align.

Fortunately, this is not true. Just by taking up a few conscientious practices, you can wear clothes that you love, without compromising on the environment. 

Much as your body needs a detox to rid itself of toxic waste, your wardrobe needs one too. As you will soon find out, this is good for the environment and your overall health.

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Fix These Annoying Beauty Problems

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You've chipped your nail polish, and you're suffering from razor burn. And to make matters worse, you've plucked too much of your eyebrows away.

These little annoyances are enough to ruin your day and undermine your beauty look. Stacked up, they are devastating.

Life isn't stress-free, but we can prepare ourselves. There are remedies and preventative tactics for most beauty-related issues.

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Change Your Life With These Beauty And Fashion Habits

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We understand that with our busy lives, it's hard to adopt new practices. So start small, commit for a short time, and be consistent in practicing positive new behaviors. 

You'll find in no time that small steps add up, and you are well on your way to larger than life effects. It's easy to drink an extra glass of water a day or to invest in a few essential trend accessories to make a fashion statement. Start now.

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Wear Sexy Perfume

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We polled and discussed and argued and eventually came up with our list of eleven sexiest perfumes ever created. We landed eleven because there was just too much angst pruning the list to ten.

And eleven gives us one more opportunity to be sexy right.

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Benefit From A Daily Nap

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Science shows that napping is right for you. So embrace rather than guilting yourself out of one. You'll perform better and accomplish more fully refreshed than tired and in need of sleep.

The Spanish have long understood the benefits of a daily nap, practicing an afternoon siesta with vigor and enthusiasm. Sure this practice might today be in decline, but its basis is thousands of years old because napping is beneficial for you.

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Ride A Motorbike

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Why do women ride motorbikes? For transportation, yes, but also because we look good on one, and want all the benefits that bike riding brings. From a sense of freedom to weight loss, bike riding is an activity we should all consider.

A woman on a bike is not alone anymore. A recent Motorcycle Industry Council survey revealed that one in every five motorcycle riders is female. This revelation shifts societal expectations and mindsets altogether. Women are allowed to ride motorbikes, and we are good at it too.

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Adopt Green Changes

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Self-care is so important we should take extra steps to ensure we are living the healthiest life possible. Making adjustments to live a greener life helps the planet and has a snowball effect that affects everyone. 

Here are 15 green ideas to adopt that will help us all.

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Future Proof Your Body

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We all know that some kind of decline is inevitable as we age. Even though this process is entirely natural, we have a hard time accepting the fact. It makes us feel miserable and depressed about the things we can't change.

If we can't change the very fact of aging, we can change the way aging will feel for us by remaining healthy and fit for many years to come.

Here are the 13 most important things you should know and apply, so that you can truly make the most out of your autumn years.

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Go To The Sauna

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Ever been in a sauna? No, it's not just a place for men to go sweat and chat, it's also an excellent place for women, and has real benefits for us.  

All around the world, there are saunas available for public use, and for some people, their love is so strong, they have a sauna in their property for personal use.

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Start Meditating

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So, you want to meditate, but you are not ready to become a hardcore vegan and make your granola just yet. I have news for you. Not all meditation practices involve the infamous "Ommm." Many techniques don't require any prior experience or training at all.

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Try These Easy Asanas At Your Desk

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Asana is a Sanskrit term often translated as "posture" or "pose," or "a steady, comfortable seat," particularly for meditation.

Many people assume asana requires challenging, advanced poses. However, anyone with any level of experience can practice these poses, whether beginner, intermediate, or advanced.

You can also modify individual asanas to suit your particular needs and desires.

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Watch How Stress Affects Your Appearance

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Stress is inevitable, and something that everyone feels at some point in their life. In many ways, stress can present itself through your appearance.

If you've noticed any of the following changes in the way you look and feel, it may be an indicator that your levels of stress are on the rise.

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Start Your Day The Self Care Way

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Self-care is the practice of taking an active role in protecting one's wellbeing and happiness, in particular during periods of stress. Self-care is essential to our lives and our ability to remain positive, healthy, and stress-free. 

One of the best times to practice self-care is in the morning. Making time for yourself in the morning sets the tone for your day. Done right, it provides you with feelings of self-worth and love, helping you to focus on what truly matters in life.

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Buy Eco-Friendly

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What sets sustainable clothing apart from the rest is that they are worker-friendly and ecofriendly. And are usually manufactured using recycled and reused material.

Typically, companies that produce sustainable clothes provide decent working conditions and fair wages. Ethical fashion brands use environmentally friendly fabrics and use no toxic dyes. 

As a result, more people are looking to buy clothes that protect the planet from pollution, thereby improving all our lives.

Try A Stand-Up Desk

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Having a home office comes with benefits and downsides at the same time. Some people fail to organize and custom their work environment to increase and maintain their motivation. Others make poor choices or environmental changes that affect their health state.

The most common mistake they make is that people choose a sitting desk over a standing one.

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Participating online is no longer optional but rather an intricate part of our everyday lives. From using Facebook to update our friends and family to our latest look on Instagram - social media is a big deal and keeps getting bigger. 

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Lees Garcia is a Fashion & Beauty Influencer with years of blogging experience and an extensive resume working with international brands. She is the first Cuban woman ever to win an International Beauty Pageant. She has traveled on goodwill missions around the world, became a TV Personality and a full-time model, and is now an influencer and ambassador for The Kewl Shop. Read more about Lees here.

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