Pros And Cons Of Dating A Nerdy Girl

Last updated on : October 07 2021

Nerdy Girl

What Is A Nerd And Can I Date One? 

According to Wikipedia, nerd is a descriptive term, often used pejoratively, indicating that a person is overly intellectual, obsessive, or socially impaired. The urban dictionary defines a nerd as "someone whose IQ exceeds his weight."

However, now that the Internet has led to a whole new generation of people who enjoy nerdy hobbies and jobs, these people are viewed less as a nuisance and more as exciting people. 

And as a result, more and more men and women are looking to date nerdy or clever girls.

Yet, dating them is not always easy because nerds can be hard to find in a social context and even harder to keep interested in you. 

That's why we're going to take a light-hearted look at many great tips for dating nerdy women so you can find one that is right for you.

Dating with a nerdy girl

1. Pros And Cons Of Dating Clever Women

Before we start getting into the different ways to learn how you can date a nerdy, intelligent woman, we have to look at the pros and cons. 

After all, it's not all good things that come with dating someone more intelligent than you, and who knows it. 

Here are some things that you need to look out for when you're dating a nerd. 


A. Nerds tend to be intelligent people. 

Nerds tend to have a firm grasp on the book smarts side of life. 

They'll understand how to learn effectively, they'll do well in school, and that knowledge can translate to helping you in various parts of your life.

B. You get to learn new things with them. 

Nerdy girls love to learn new things. Whether they are studying something in school or learning something for fun, they're bound to have a good time learning new things with you.

C. Their hobbies are exciting. 

Nerds have been loudly and proudly supporting movies like Star Wars and Marvel's Avengers long before the mainstream accepted them. Similarly, you'll find nerds and mainstream unadopted cryptocurrencies together. 

As a result, when you date a nerdy girl, you get to spend a lot

of time involved in their hobbies. You might find out that you have a love of video games that you never explored or find a whole new hobby of your own.


A. Your nerdy girlfriend is going to be very invested and interested in her hobbies.

As a result, the chances are that your partner will have to choose between spending time with you and putting time into her hobbies at some point in the relationship. 

You have to realize that the thing that makes her a nerd is the same thing that is going to ensure you don't get to spend as much time as you want together.

B. She is going to have some strong opinions.

Every nerd is known for taking sides and having strong opinions about their favorite nerdy topic.

However, that means that you're going to run afoul of her sensibilities at some point, probably, and that can be not easy.

So now you know, there are many reasons to love dating nerdy girls, along with a few reasons it might be a tougher experience than you thought.

Keep her interested

2. How To Attract A Brainy Girl

Trying to attract a nerdy girl can be somewhat challenging. The best thing to do is to show an interest in them as a person. 

This essential but straightforward thing can get them to like you because people are very flattered when others take a personal interest in them. 

However, that is not always enough to attract these ladies. 

If you take an interest in the nerdy girl's activity of choice (video games, writing, stories, crypto, or movies), then you should be a willing and attentive listener. 

Nerds want to share their interests with people, and if you can learn to take an interest in what they're saying, then there is a great chance that

you're going to find that the girl is interested in you.

Another more practical way to attract a brainy girl is by going to the places they are located. 

It's not enough to show interest in a woman; you have to be where they are at so you can strike up that first conversation. 

Where you find a nerd depends a lot on what your interests are as well. You don't want to try meeting a nerdy person for the sake of meeting a nerdy person; you need to be more specific. 

Thus, if you enjoy reading comics, a natural place to start would be in a comic store. That way, you can spend time in a particular location and chat with people that come in.

A great way to meet people when you're looking for a nerdy person is online. There are all kinds of sites dedicated to helping nerds find other nerds to talk about their favorite hobbies and interests.

Being on a site about astronomy could lead to you getting the chance to chat with a woman that is single and wants to share her expertise with you. 

Become part of an online community, and you'll have opportunities to introduce yourself to these lovely people.

Of course, it always helps if you are a fascinating, ambitious person that just so happens to like nerdy stuff. 

Have some boldness and charisma; these are the traits nerdy girls like in most characters in their fantasy worlds of choice or their real-life heroes, so embody those traits to get great results.

Learn to be together

3. Useful Tips For Dating A Nerdy Girl

Once you have asked out a nerdy girl and things are starting to get steady, you need to know how to manage the relationship. 

Fortunately, we have answers from the experts that will help you get

ready to date a nerdy girl with no problem. 

Without further ado, here are the most valuable tips for dating

a nerdy girl.

A. When it comes to dating a female nerd, be ready to hear a lot of things you don't get.

Nerdy women tend to be very smart and have an area of knowledge in which they know more than most people. 

For many people, it takes time to get used to dating someone intelligent in a niche area.

So, when you inevitably feel the frustration of dating someone and not knowing what in the world they're talking about, you should not be afraid to look up the answers. 

If you feel attracted to a smart girl but can't discuss it with anyone, the answers on Quora may help you.

B. Don't make fun of their hobby

Nerds are very particular about their hobbies. They have a specific viewpoint on them, and they don't like it when people denigrate them for enjoying something. 

So, when your nerdy partner is on pins and needles waiting to find out what is happening in the latest episode of their favorite anime, don't make

fun of them. 

Join in on the excitement instead and help them feel like you genuinely care about the things that they're invested in.

C. See them as a person first.

Too many people get into a relationship with a nerdy person and only see them as the sum of their preferred television shows, movies, card games, or other hobbies. 

You have to realize that they are a complete person, so you can't just be happy that you got a nerdy girlfriend. 

You have to take care of all parts of the relationship and not just count on a mutual love of a hobby or lifestyle to carry your relationship through to success.

D. Learn to be together, apart.

A lot of couples have this notion that they have to be together every second of the day. 

That is not a healthy attitude to have towards relationships. 

Instead, it would help if you spent some time and energy ensuring that you can spend time together in the same place, like your house, but doing different things. 

They can pursue their pastime, and you can follow your own. Maybe you like playing video games, and your nerdy girlfriend likes to analyze the bitcoin chart. 

Learn how to break away from one another from time to time.

E. Don't assume everything about your partner

Many people get the image of a nerd in their mind, and they can't help but assume every little thing about them. 

They imagine they don't like to dress up and express a feminine side or that they're incapable of putting themselves together for a night out. 

Worse still, some people assume they're bad at athletics. 

Make sure that you take the time to learn about your nerdy partner. Please don't put them on a pedestal and believe that they're perfect, but also don't assume that they are a certain way because of nerd stereotypes.


Dating a nerdy girl is not so easy at first sight, but it can be a very positive experience when you put some effort into it. 

Now that you know how to find these women and what you need to do to attract them, you should be well on the way to meeting the girl that is right for you. 

Spend some time in places where they hang out, and you could find yourself learning first-hand what it's like to be in a relationship

with an intelligent and interesting woman.

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