Insights Into The Male Escort Business And The Women Who Hire Them
Last updated on : August 29 2023
Ok, we admit it, we're curious and thought you, dear reader, might be too.
So we took it upon ourselves to delve deeper into the male escorting business, to see what's there and whether it's worth a second look.
We teamed up with premier UK site Gentlemen4hire to get the insights needed and access to some of their gorgeous escorts to interview. The Sun and GQ have written about Gentleman4hire, and so they come with a pedigree, and we felt confident listening to them.
And did we learn a lot - click on the links below to learn more.
Male Escorts And Companions
The idea of men being hired by women to perform a partner's duties is not a new concept.
Since the Roman Era, and even before then, high society women showed a keen interest in gladiators and attractive, well-endowed slaves.
And some of these women were quite explicit in flaunting their interests. A famous example is Messalina, Empress to Claudius, whose promiscuity was legendary.
Who Are The Women Who Pay For Male Companionship
We often think of women who spend their money on male companions as sugar-mamas. Others see them as older spinsters in need. Male escorts call them 'customers' or 'clients.'
But the real question is who they are, and why they do it?
Studies show that a high proportion of US, British, and Australian women paying for companionship and sex are busy career professionals in their 30s and 40s.
This finding is contrary to the general thinking that women who hire male escorts are older, wealthier, and in the menopausal bracket of 50 and above.
Another online survey of women who employ male escort services revealed that many are white, earn over £80,000 per year in the UK, and over $100,000 in the US.
Younger, successful, and ambitious women claim to be 'too busy' for relationships and not having enough time for love and sex. Their careers and focus on work, taking most of their time and precedence.
Time better spent
Others see a male escort service as time better spent than searching their local bar or nightclub for a companion or looking for the perfect Tinder date.
Why? Because they don't want to waste a moment on a wrong choice, a time-waster who turns out to be a creep, jerk, or worse, a thief or pedophile.
Many are educated women, often with graduate degrees, and when thinking about the prospect of a relationship, feel less guilty about paying for it.
To them, it's a two-way transaction like any other.
What Women Look For In A Male Escort
Most undoubtedly, many want a handsome, attractive man, well-built physically, confident, and assertive. They also fancy a male escort that is interesting, mysterious, and easy to hold a conversation.
However, others want escorts to detract attention or to match their appearance. They want boy-next-door looks to avoid awkward questions.
For lesbian businesswomen, a nondescript date doesn't raise any eyebrows, nor for the girl who appears with a partner at the office party for the first time.
Male escort sites also vary widely, to cater for these differences in taste.
Some carry escorts to suit your fantasy with shirtless muscular men on display. Others show off a range, from young to middle-aged, or athletic to not so firm.
And others include female and gay escorts catering to the needs of men or adventurous couples.
The Job Of A Male Escort
To set the record straight, no one grows up aspiring to be a male escort.
It's not your typical career path, and like many other careers, men tend to get drawn by curiosity or necessity, and later on, the job grows on them.
When they hear the phrase "male escort," most people typically think escorts get paid for sex. While this is true to an extent, there's more to it than meets the eye.
"Typically, I get paid by women to accompany them to birthday parties, conferences, weddings, dinner dates, family dinners, paid vacations, where I play the role of an accomplished, alpha male boyfriend. So, in essence, I'm more of a boyfriend for hire but without the sex.", Says one escort we interviewed.
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Yes, a large proportion of these interactions end in sex - because that is what the woman is after.
Prostitution v Escorting
There is a stark difference between prostitution and escorting.
Under U.S. and U.K. law and in many other countries around the world, prostitution is illegal. However, male escorts are paid only for their company and not to have sex, and this approach is perfectly legal.
"If somebody calls the agency and he or she clearly states that they intend to look for a sexual service, then that conversation will go no further," says the owner of a well known male escort business.
Given the strong preconceived notions of sex and escorts and the importance of agencies sticking to the law - I put their claim to the test by calling one.
A woman answered the phone. She had a soft voice and was cordial.
In order not to raise suspicion, I asked for details about their services and other things. The lady on the phone was kind enough to let me in on a few details about the men I had chosen.
Then it was time for me to ask the million-dollar question.
So I asked, what if I wanted the male escort only for sex? She politely said they do not provide such a service. I insisted, and the next thing I knew, she hung up on me.
No one likes being hung up on, but I have to admit, it was a rigid way of telling sex-crazed women that this is not what they do.
How Much Does A Male Escort Cost?
According to our industry source, male escorts can charge anywhere from $1000 for a four-hour appointment. And up to $2000 for an overnight date, $3,000 for 24 hours, and $5,000 to $6000 for a weekend.
However, the earning power depends on the man in question.
It's merely economics 101 – if demand is more significant than supply, then the prices go up. If more women demand a particular male's services, it becomes more expensive to book him, and thus his potential earnings increase.
Like in sales, the escorts have to be passionate and good at what they do to command a hefty price.
Stigmas and Prejudices
It isn't to say the male escort industry is all bread and butter, Oh! Far from it.
The stigma and prejudice against people in this work line are still prevalent irrespective of the efforts to alter perceptions and attitudes.
While conditions are better for male escorts now than they were in the past, there is still much room for improvement.
Speaking to some of the influential figures in the male escort business, they say it's like any other business. The most challenging parts are finding quality escorts, arranging dates between clients and companions, and then following up.
They also claim to be getting an increasing amount of younger and successful women as clients.
It's possible a wider variety of women are using their services than we think.
Compared with very judgmental women, a new breed of women possibly sees male escorting as a means to an end.
A faster and safer route to get a man in their life without all the relationship troubles. Sometimes this is for companionship, other times for comfort and sex.
After all, why should a woman waste time getting made up, dressed up, and go to a bar on a Sunday night waiting for a man only to end up with the week's worst? Right!
However, the industry is struggling with acceptance.
There is still a severe stigma attached to the industry, and most women won't admit to using its services or refuse to use them at all - because of the sex worker connotations.
But there is no doubt that there is demand, and that this demand is coming from a broader spectrum of female society.
Our view is that we need to keep an open mind. And that provided the services are legal, wholesome, and in keeping with our wishes and desires, we are supportive.
What we choose to do is up to us, yes.
Frequently Asked Questions
Here are the questions most frequently asked by our readers.
1. What is the male escort business all about?
The male escort business provides companionship and various services to clients, often women, in exchange for a fee. These services can range from being a date to accompanying clients to events or providing emotional or other support.
2. Are male escorts only hired for physical intimacy?
No, not necessarily. While some clients may seek companionship that includes physical intimacy, others hire male escorts for companionship, conversation, and emotional connection.
3. Who are the women that hire male escorts?
Women from diverse backgrounds and walks of life may hire male escorts. Some look for genuine connections, others seek a temporary companion for events, and some may want to explore their personal desires in a safe and respectful environment.
4. Why do women choose to hire male escorts?
Women may hire male escorts for various reasons, including companionship, fulfilling fantasies, exploring their desires, escaping from routine, or simply enjoying a memorable experience.
5. Is hiring a male escort socially accepted?
Attitudes are changing, and many people are becoming more open-minded about personal choices. While there might still be some stigma, hiring a male escort is a personal decision that should be respected.
6. How do male escorts ensure safety and privacy?
Reputable male escorts prioritize the safety and privacy of their clients. They maintain professional boundaries, use pseudonyms, and follow strict confidentiality practices to ensure a secure and discreet experience.
7. What qualities should I look for in a male escort?
When selecting a male escort, consider qualities like good communication skills, respect for boundaries, a professional approach, and positive reviews from previous clients.
8. How can I communicate my preferences and boundaries?
Clear communication is essential. Before hiring a male escort, have an open conversation about your expectations, boundaries, and desires. A professional escort will listen and respect your wishes.
9. How much does hiring a male escort cost?
Costs can vary widely based on factors like location, duration of the engagement, services offered, and the escort's experience. It's best to discuss pricing upfront to avoid misunderstandings.
10. What should I expect during a meeting with a male escort?
Every experience is unique and tailored to your preferences. A male escort will aim to make you feel comfortable, engage in meaningful conversation, and provide companionship according to your desires.
11. Is there a romantic aspect to hiring a male escort?
The experience can include romantic elements, such as thoughtful gestures and shared moments, but it ultimately depends on what you're seeking and the boundaries you set.
12. How do I ensure a positive experience?
Choose an escort with a good reputation, communicate openly, be respectful of each other's boundaries, and prioritize safety. A positive attitude and clear expectations contribute to a fulfilling experience.
13. Is it possible to develop genuine connections with male escorts?
Yes, some clients and escorts do develop genuine connections over time. However, it's important to remember that the nature of the relationship is primarily professional.
14. How do I book a male escort?
Research reputable agencies or independent escorts, read reviews, and reach out to discuss your needs and preferences. Booking details will vary based on the chosen escort.
15. What's the difference between a male escort and a therapist?
While both provide support, male escorts offer companionship and companionship-related services. Therapists offer professional counseling and mental health support.
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