7 Secrets Of Attraction: How To Make Someone Fall For You
Last updated on : September 01 2022
Whether you're deep in the dating pool or have your eye on one person, it's often easier said than done to make someone fall for you. Life isn't a Disney movie, and there are no "love potions" that will cause someone to fall for you as soon as they look at you.
The internet is full of "hacks" you can use to make someone more attracted to you. While some of them are better than others, you could be overcomplicating things for yourself.
Instead, think of the secrets of attraction as straightforward. Sometimes, the smallest gestures have the most significant impact and can make you more desirable.
With that in mind, let's dive into some of the secrets of attraction. You'll realize they aren't secrets but practical tools you can use to make someone fall for you and boost your appeal to those you're already interested in as a partner.
1. Smile More Often
Max Eastman said, "a smile is the universal welcome."
There's a lot of truth to that, especially if you don't consider yourself a strong communicator. There have been countless studies done on the benefits of smiling. Not only can a smile reduce your stress levels, boost your immune system, and make you feel more relaxed, but it also makes you more appealing to others. Smiling makes people feel more comfortable around you, so they're more likely to approach you and open up when talking to you.
People are naturally drawn to smiling faces. Individuals with photos of them smiling are selected more often on dating apps, and you're more likely to be approached by someone you find attractive with a smile on your face.
You'll also look more youthful when you're smiling. To look younger and feel better, go through your day with a smile. Not only will you feel good, but you might also improve someone else's day.
2. Select A Signature Scent
In the animal kingdom, scent is often used when a male or female wants to attract a member of the opposite sex.
We might be more advanced than most animals, but this is something we have in common with them. Nevertheless, scent remains very primal, no matter how sophisticated we try to refine and make it.
Some scents are more attractive to people than others. However, choosing a scent that complements you and works with your body's natural smell is essential. Whether you wear a specific perfume on a first date or choose a signature scent to boost your appeal all the time is up to you.
Some of the best fragrances that have been scientifically shown to boost attractiveness are:
- Rose oil
- Orange fruits
- Lily of the valley
Don't be afraid to play around with different scents until you find one you like. The right smell will not only draw people in but can make them feel more comfortable and welcome around you.
3. Take A Trip
You can learn a lot by traveling the world, or even the country. You'll have more knowledge of the world, incredible experiences, and even a greater sense of self. Many people find well-traveled individuals very attractive.
Consider traveling more for personal enrichment and make the most of every trip by doing things like:
- Looking up local history
- Going off the beaten path
- Traveling alone
- Keeping a trip journal
- Meeting other travelers
Traveling is a fantastic way to reduce stress, get a new perspective on life, and educate yourself on different cultures and customs. Not only do those things make you more attractive, but they can give you plenty to talk about when you're dating someone or trying to keep up a conversation.
If you're well-traveled, you can make a great first impression by engaging in conversation. You might even connect with someone else who has the "travel bug," and you can eventually go on adventures together.
However, talking about yourself (and your travels) too much can be offputting, so make sure you strike a healthy balance.
4. Be An Active Listener
Everyone wants to be heard, understood, and valued. You can find that balance by listening more than you speak.
Being an active listener is essential and an effective way to be more attractive when connecting with people. One study found that listening is a desirable trait to have when it comes to men looking for women.
Unfortunately, so many people get active listening "wrong."
It's about more than just hearing what another person has to say. Use some of the techniques below to show who you're with, that you're listening, and that their words mean something to you:
- Maintain eye contact
- Face the speaker
- Don't interrupt
- Pay attention to non-verbal cues
- Stay focused
Be sure to ask questions or repeat what the person has said (when appropriate) to let them know you understand or are interested in hearing more.
Being an active listener is far more than just a first impression tactic. It can help with long-term relationships and intimacy when you have found someone special.
The most important of the above active listening suggestions might be maintaining eye contact. Studies have shown that when someone gazes at you, it signifies attraction.
You can also make yourself more appealing by fixing your eyes on the person you're talking to. It can help them feel valued and like their words mean something to you.
5. Utilize Body Language
If you're having trouble attracting people or getting others to approach you, have you thought about how you might appeal to those in the same space?
Before you say anything, people can form an impression of you based on the energy you're giving off. A lot of it has to do with body language.
Sitting with your arms crossed over your chest, checking your phone, or clutching a purse against your stomach, will make you come across as closed off and unapproachable. If you want others to feel comfortable coming up to speak with you, change your body language.
It's essential to be comfortable no matter how you're sitting or standing, but make sure you're not giving people the wrong impression. Don't use objects to "block" people. Instead, keep yourself open and available.
If you don't want someone to approach you and you want to maintain your comfort zone, these blocks are appropriate. However, if you're trying to attract someone toward you, don't close yourself off.
When someone finally approaches you, continue with positive, open body language. Use your hands to gesture as often as possible. Studies have shown that people who hide their hands under tables or in their pockets can come across as untrustworthy.
Keep your palms open, and don't be afraid to get expressive with appropriate gestures.
6. Be Confident
Confidence isn't something that you can build overnight. It can be a real struggle for people, which is why about 85% of the population deals with low self-esteem.
However, confidence is attractive. While there's a fine line between confidence and cockiness, showing the world that you're proud to be who you are can make people look at you twice – in the best way possible.
While you might not be able to boost your self-esteem immediately, there are habits you can get into that will help to improve your confidence over time and make you more appealing.
Try some of the following techniques to build confidence and feel better about yourself:
- Be as productive as possible
- Stay physically active
- Set both small and significant goals and record your progress
- Look for the positive in every situation
- Stand up for yourself
You don't have to show off to others to appear confident. Being comfortable with you is enough; people will pick up on that quickly. Keep your head held high when you enter a room. Straighten up your posture. Most importantly, eliminate negative self-talk from your mind.
It might also help to develop a positive mantra you can use daily to build your confidence and remind yourself that you are enough.
7. Take Care Of Yourself
One of the best ways to make someone fall for you is to love yourself.
Self-care isn't selfish. When you take the time to put effort into how you look and feel, other people will notice. If you're constantly down on yourself or you don't take pride in how you present yourself to others, you'll give off the wrong impression.
You don't need to focus on vanity or become obsessed with your appearance. Attraction isn't always about physical appearances. Instead, it's about the vibe people give off. When you truly learn to love yourself and appreciate who you are, you'll send the right signals to others, making you more appealing.
So, whether you're trying to meet new people in some familiar spaces or you want to catch the eye of a long-time crush, there are plenty of ways to become more attractive and make someone fall for you.
Use some of these "secrets" to better yourself, reach your goals, and find the right person to connect with.
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