5 Unexpected Ways Sex Toys Build Intimacy In A Relationship

Last updated on : August 23 2020

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Sex Toys And Intimacy

Sex toys are fantastic things; however, people tend to forget why they're called toys. A sex toy is about fun, exploration, intimacy, and having a good time. Sex is always just as much about the journey as it is the destination.

Although some sex toys can cure loneliness, other ones can help couples to reach orgasms and new levels of intimacy. Moreover, there are quite a few ways in which sex toys can spice up a relationship. 

What Is Intimacy

It's important to remember that intimacy isn't a euphemism. People often talk about it as just another word for sex. However, it is something much more than the physical act. 

Intimacy is the idea of knowing someone better than almost anyone else in the world. It's about finding out all the things that one's partner doesn't share with anyone else. Likewise, intimacy is letting one's partner do the same with you. 

How Do Sex Toys Help With Intimacy

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A sex toy is a way of finding out things about each other in a fun and playful manner. Sex toys provide a chance to explore who people are as a sexual being. And in turn, this can forge a secure, intimate connection between a couple. 

This heightened closeness can come about in a virtually endless number of ways. However, there are five especially important ways that sex toys increase intimacy between couples. 

1. Through Discussion

In the beginning, discussing sex toys is new and exciting. It's a road to discovery and the building of trust and intimacy. Later, your intimate moments extend beyond discussion, into subtle sounds, physical reactions, and so much more.

It's important to remember the role of communication when using sex toys. A healthy Interaction isn't just about talking. Intimacy extends into the communication you share while using the toys themselves. 

When we listen to our partners during these moments, we understand more, our bonds strengthen and closeness deepens.  

2. Through Exploration

Sex toys are a fantastic means of physical exploration. Using one with a partner means you get to explore their physical reactions. And this lets us discover intimate, unique, and exciting things, not just about them, but ourselves. 

This sharing experience through physical exploration intensely builds intimacy and is often unique and exciting.

3. By Opening Up

Sex toys undoubtedly bring out pleasure. But they also help us open up to new possibilities. They extend our sexual boundaries, testing, and teasing us. Sharing this self-discovery process with our partners is often exhilarating, and deep down intimate. 

When we enjoy using sex toys it can lead to trying out different experiences. Maybe the use of other toys or new uses for existing ones. This road of discovery, when shared with our partner is an intimate and exciting one.  

4. By Improving Confidence

Any journey towards more intimacy and self-discovery brings greater confidence. And because sex toys break boundaries and lead to new experiences, they inject healthy confidence in our relationships. The type of trust that brings you closer, more intimately together.

The sexiest people radiate confidence in every aspect of their life, and with sex toys, this includes in the bedroom as well.  

5. Through Sickness and Health

If the physical aspects of sex ever become a problem, through sickness, age, or ill health, then sex toys can fill a gap, keeping sex active in your relationship. And this means your relationship really can keep growing intimately no matter what challenges have come into it.

Life is complicated, and sometimes people have to fight for their health. These challenges can often place a massive strain on sexual relationships. Sex toys can change all that for the better by providing a mechanical aid that can work as well or better than one's own body. 

How to Introduce Sex Toys to Your Partner

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Select the best time

While there is no perfect time to introduce the idea of using sex toys in the bedroom, it's probably a bit too soon to bring it up on the first few dates. Wait until you have had a couple of sex sessions together and built up a healthy level of confidence and communication inside and outside the bedroom.

You can help speed up the process by lending lots of praise to your partner as your sexual togetherness grows. It will be much easier to introduce a sex toy when he is confident that he can satisfy you sexually, especially when you present it as an enhancement to both his and your sexual pleasures. 

Start a conversation

One way to ease the subject of sex toys into the conversation is to find some articles about sex toys and their benefits. Then introduce the topic by saying: "I found this interesting article about how sex toys can be a lot of fun, what do you think of it? "

Let your partner read the article. This introduction will not only help you to gauge the reaction of your partner, but it will also allow a discussion of sex toys to flow between you naturally.

Purchase sex toys together

Virtual shopping at an online sex toy store is a perfect opportunity for you and your partner to interact and discuss things you might like.

Being able to browse in your own home in comfort will make it easier for you to talk openly about what you may want to try out.

When you get used to staring at various sex toys together, it's going to be a lot of fun too!

Mutual orgasms

The common problem men have with sex toys is the fear that they will be left out. So guarantee a sex toy is a win-win. Look for unique sex toys for both him and you or interactive toys that give you and your partner a variety of pleasurable possibilities.

Self-pleasure with sex toys

Give your man a sex toy as a gift and let him experience it on his own before introducing it into your couple play.

When he enjoys the device and the pleasures it provides, you might find he is interested in sharing the experience with you.

Use him as a sex toy.

A perfect way to get him on board with the idea is to pick a device he can wear so that he practically is the sex toy.

These choices ensure that his manhood is still the centerpiece of your sex session, and the sex toy just becomes a means of improving both your pleasure during penetration.

Final Verdict

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It's time to start the journey and have some fun.

All of the discussion above comes together to form a clear conclusion. Sex toys can bring intimacy and take your relationship to the next level. It's up to the couple to figure out which toys are the right fit for their life. 

What's clear is that there's always going to be a perfect toy for whatever point one is in a relationship. And, a toy for where one wants to take things. 

Bonus Read: Why Women Lose Attraction For Men And What To Do About It

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