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Ask April - Lonely Heart

Posted on February 18 2015

April Masini - Relationship Expert - AskApril.comKeeping things fresh and sexy after marriage is a challenge for us all ladies. April Masini is a relationship expert that keeps it real. You can get free relationship advice on just about anything you want by asking her a question via her private forum AskApril. April is not only a relationship expert but also one of our very own customers. April purchased eight of our fabulous Valentine's Day bandage dresses and two of our lovely skirts.

For now let's hear from Lonely Heart and what April recommends she do about it. Oh and if you want more information on April I've provided her bio below. 

Dear April,

I’m 31, and married the love of my life in June after dating him for 2 years. He is a wonderful man I met three years ago at work. He works the day shift, and I work the night shift. He works all day and then goes hunting. He loves to hunt. He goes morning and night, and he never misses a day. I'm glad he has a hobby, but when I ask him to stay with me, he doesn't. We never make love, and we used to all the time before we got married. I don't know what to do. All I want is to be able to spend more time with him. I love him so much. Any advice?


Lonely heart

Dear Lonely heart,

In spite of all the jokes, it’s not normal to get married and stop having sex altogether. Especially since the two of you don't have kids who can be obstacles to intimacy. This is a problem that is worth addressing and can be fixed pretty quickly if you're willing to make some changes, yourself.  

First of all, you have to give him something to want to stay home for.  In other words, you have to be seductive and sexy. Familiarity is very common in marriages, and it combats excitement and seduction, so break the pattern and make things more exciting at home for him. There are lots of ways to do this. Personally, you can make sure you're taking care of yourself by being in the mood, and setting the mood. Buy new lingerie, wear sexy clothing, and make your home a place that’s more conducive to having a romantic, sexual life together. Scented candles, a beautiful dinner, making him feel desired -- these are all ways to get him more interested. Second, you have to give yourselves opportunities to have sex. It doesn't always just happen when you're very familiar with each other, which is a challenge in marriage.

April's Bio

April Masini is the author of four relationship advice books, the 'Ask April' advice column and the advice forum where over 20,000 questions have been asked and answered; she has more than 1.3 million Twitter followers and 560,000 Facebook fans. April has appeared as a featured guest on the The O'Reilly Factor, hosted Everything You Need to Know About Sex and been interviewed for over 10,000 articles, radio and television shows, including those on ABC, CBS, FOX, MSN, Yahoo!, CNN, BBC, Univision, Telemundo, Agence France Press — US News & World Report, Wall Street Journal, New York Times, New York Daily News, Los Angeles Times, Chicago Tribune, Forbes, New York Post, Washington Post, Christian Science Monitor, Men’s Health, Women’s Health, Glamour, Woman’s Day, Yahoo!, Huffington Post, The Associated Press, TIME, Brides, Maxim, Cosmopolitan, and USA Today, among others.

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